Has the “B doesn’t happen until A is complete” rule ever gotten a little confusing? Have you ever wondered about how to discipline your child who has ADD? In this podcast you will hear my answer to both of these questions.
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Question #1
Audio—Sophia How do you apply B doesn’t happen until A is complete
Dr. Leman’s Answer:
In the scenario of washing dishes, but not in a timely manner, as given by Sophie, Dr. Leman does a little role playing as an example of how we could respond in such a situation.
1. Start out positive. “I appreciate how well you wash the dishes. They are nice and clean. This puts a smile on my face!”
2. Hold them accountable. “But when they are not done, and I need to be in the kitchen making dinner, it makes it difficult.”
Advice:
The first time around, you can be a little forgiving. But the second time around, you need to not be so lenient. NO WARNINGS!
Then, start tomorrow as a new day.
Question #2
Audio—Kevin—How do you discipline a strong-willed ADD Child?
Dr. Leman’s Answer:
Two issues are discussed here.
1. If she is strong-willed, she is powerful. Most likely one or both of the parents is authoritarian. Do a gut check to make sure you are not authoritarian.
2. ADD kids need more direction, and specific instructions, sometimes with a physical touch.
Never use their ADD as an excuse or treat her as a medical victim.
Give her lots of “Vitamin N” and “Vitamin E”.
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